Question of the Day
When Kenneth and Gloria started their journey of faith they had questions too—lots of them! So, we've compiled the most frequently asked questions by people like you—people who earnestly desire to find God's answers to the practical, real-life challenges of everyday living. We have a new question every day, so check back often!
Q: Must I remain in an abusive marriage?Add to Favorites
No. God desires for you to be ruled by His Spirit of peace, not by fear (2 Timothy 1:7). This fact is further emphasized in 1 John 4:18: “Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.”
God loves both you and your spouse, and His plan is for you both to live in victory. However, victory requires that we choose to act the way love would act (1 Corinthians 13). In a relationship where one person refuses to act in accordance with love, the other person must follow the leading of the Holy Spirit in making the right decision (Proverbs 3:5-6).
What God does not desire is for anyone to remain in an abusive situation. If the other person is acting in anger and violence and you are in physical danger, you do not have to remain in order to prove your faith. It is sometimes necessary to go to a safe location until the person has taken control of their emotions and the issues can be addressed peaceably.
As a believer, you can take authority over the devil and his attempts to stir up strife and destroy your marriage! Romans 2:4 says, “The goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance.” The most effective thing that will impact your spouse is the pure love of God.
One of the greatest acts of love is intercession. Your spouse is a free moral agent and has the right to choose. However, with you standing on the Word of God, you make available God’s power for him or her to make the right decision (James 5:16). You can use Ephesians 1:17-20 to make your prayer for your spouse. Remember, God’s Word always prospers everywhere it’s sent (Isaiah 55:11).